Key Points
- Banky W tells a story about a distant marriage. The man paid school and living costs abroad for years.
- He warns money cannot replace time with a spouse. Lack of presence can break a marriage.
- He urges couples to agree simple rules before long trips. Clear rules help keep two people close.
Banky W (Bankole Wellington) told a story about a man who drifted from his wife over time and money. The singer and pastor used the example on the Mentality podcast to show how absence can hollow a bond.
The man in the story sent his wife and children to the United States so she could study. Banky W said the man then worked hard at home while he supported them from afar and paid fees. For related reading see Adesua Etomi sudden surgery scare.
Banky W said the man spent about ten to fifteen years sending money and keeping the family afloat. He said the wife later asked for a divorce because they had grown apart. The anecdote showed how steady cash cannot buy shared time or closeness.
Why presence matters
Banky W argued that couples must set rules on how to stay close when apart. He gave a simple rule he uses with his wife in their marriage. He said they always sleep in the same place when they are in the same city even if it means booking a hotel.
He said small acts of presence build a marriage more than grand payments. The point was clear: time and shared routines matter more than money alone. He added that early talks can stop many slow drifting problems.
Banky W also urged couples to name their own red lines for long absences. He said those rules help when work pulls partners in different directions. He framed the rules as plain care rather than strict orders.
How to set rules
He suggested couples discuss daily habits like calls and visits in the first year. He said this first year sets patterns that last for decades. He also advised that partners should agree on where to sleep when they share a city.
Banky W used short, clear examples to show the value of small shared acts. He told listeners to say hello then come back home after a short visit. He said such small rituals can keep two people linked across hard seasons.
Some listeners have echoed his call for presence in online conversations and replies to the clip. Others noted that money and logistics do not erase emotional distance. The debate shows many people feel the same tension when families split time across countries.
Banky W framed his advice as practical rather than moralising or blaming either partner. He urged couples to protect their bond with frank talks about rules and priorities. For another recent media note on Ebuka see Ebuka finale regal look.
Banky W ended by saying simple agreements stop slow drift and loss of trust. He said couples must decide early what counts as presence and what does not. His view is that clear, shared rules help marriages survive long moves and hard seasons
