Key Points
- Ese answers a post that mocks births outside marriage. She urges critics to mind their homes.
- She says people ignore trauma, fears, and healing needs. She adds that timing differs.
- Her post stresses choice and dignity for single mothers. She warns against sly digs.
Nollywood actress Eriata Ese has pushed back at a married woman who mocked “baddies” for having children outside wedlock. She said critics do not know a person’s wounds, faith walk, or private fears. Ese urged the poster to “focus on your marriage” and stop policing strangers.
She added that the public often rushes to judge without asking why a woman chooses a path. The actress wrote that no one knows if she is healing from hurt or still studying who she wants to marry. For context, recent celebrity chatter on single life has trended online, including this Cuppy single life video.
What she told the critic
Ese argued that marriage is good, but it is not one size fits all. She noted that some women take time to gain trust, grow calm, and feel ready. She said key life choices should not be forced by online noise.
“You don’t know my past; you don’t know if I have trauma or have been abused; you don’t know if I have trust or anger issues I’m trying to heal from.” She wrote that outsiders also do not know whether she is waiting for the right click before saying yes to marriage. “You don’t know my fears and worries; you don’t know if I’m mentally ready.”
“You don’t know if I’m still working on myself to be someone’s peace and trophy.” Ese added that many people “just get on the keypad and type rubbish” because comments feel free. She signed off by telling the poster to keep her eyes on her own home.
Her wider point on choice and shame
Ese then listed the double binds women face in public talk. “Once you are 30+ with no husband, they’ll say ‘just have kids’; when you do, they ask ‘where is the father,’ and tag you a single mother.” She added that when love finally comes, some still sneer: “What is he doing with a single mother?”
She stressed that women who choose to wait also get mocked later. According to her, some people will still say, “At 40+, as fine as you are, you don’t even have one child.” Ese said what shocks her is that many of these digs come from women, too.
The actress’ remarks join a wider stream of recent posts on love, status, and pressure in public life. She framed her note as a plea for grace and space around private timelines. A separate celebrity thread on the same theme is this Nkechi Blessing single spell.
